I’m not sure if staying silent was taking the high road while events unfolded before my eyes during the time, but in retrospect, it was the right thing to do. Not replying to things that appeared to elicit a response and just focusing on what needs to be done and removing myself from the equation was just the right thing to do. The truth is, I will never know if what was said was to elicit a response or make me look bad. Maybe it had nothing to do with me. Maybe it was all in my head. Wait, no it wasn’t, but that’s what I was told.
I know this because I had an experience where I was taken advantage of, blamed and I stayed quiet. I spoke to only one person about resolving it. The one person who could resolve it and make sure what happened to me, did not happen to another patient.
It was hard to stay quiet, and face some real truths about myself. I am a recovered minion. I no longer drink the “kool-aid”. Despite all that went on, I am grateful for the learning experience.
What matters is what I learned. I learned about who I really am, and what my goals are. I learned that when someone tells me I shouldn’t be who I am, I may not be a threat, but they may consider me one. It was painful to remove myself from the equation, but I am grateful for the experience because I now know there are people who will take my trust and use it for their own personal financial gain. They will talk to me as if I am stupid and have no idea I can see through their lies. I learned that the criticism of questioning instead of answering my question, is a red flag. I learned I never want to be that kind of person as a minion, and I learned how to recognize a minion gatherer.
I will never forget that no matter how hard someone works to hide their real intentions, it will come out eventually. I learned that if I watch and observe they cannot hide exactly who they are. And my education was tough, but priceless, and I am grateful for it.